Dear new intern,
Dear 20-Somethings (D20S) is an advice column dedicated to helping you navigate the challenges and uncertainties of your twenties. You have the chance to anonymously submit questions to our advice columnist, Betty, who offers tailored advice and support to guide you through this transformative phase of life.
This interview has been shortened for clarity.
Question from a new intern:
I started an internship for my dream job at my dream company. The beginning was amazing and my manager said great things about me. However, I’ve been really getting into my head. I’m graduating at the end of the summer and I am really hoping that this internship turns into full-time. Because of this, I am putting so much pressure on myself to be perfect. I am so worried that people don’t like me and don’t think I am a valuable team member. I struggled with bad anxiety and I am thinking all of my negative thoughts are coming from that. I’m worried this will turn into self-sabotage and I absolutely don’t want that to happen. How do you cope and direct your negative thoughts to positive ones?
Answer from Betty:
Congrats on landing your dream internship! You should be incredibly proud. It sounds to me like you’re experiencing Imposter Syndrome in this new position. Who ඞ Among ඞ Us ඞ hasn’t felt like an imposter? This totally normal feeling often creeps up as soon as we’re on track to achieve some of our most amazing goals.
Imposter syndrome can be difficult to name and recognize, but what it comes down to is negative emotions coupled with feeling like you’re a fraud (even though you’re fully capable and likely exceeding expectations).
To combat these negative feelings, first remember that YOU got this internship! Your dream company chose you out of many applicants because you’re qualified and exceptional. You’re surrounded by people who took an interest in your application and said yes to you. That’s no small feat! Start by making a list of all you’ve accomplished so far at your internship, and include the kind words you received from your boss. Writing out your accomplishments will help you visualize all of the hard work you’ve been getting done. This will also be a great resource for you when it comes time to reapply for a full-time position.
I also want you to remember that it’s summertime, and you deserve a slice of summer. Don’t forget to leave time for yourself to relax before and after work. Reducing stress may help you feel better at work, and overall!
I hope this helps, bestie. If you need more info, the New York Times has a cool guide on how to navigate imposter syndrome. Remember, you’re not alone in this — we’ve all felt this way at one time or another. And maybe, just maybe, that means that we’re all qualified and doing the best we can. Slay on. ❤
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